To love one another as Christ loves us, we first need to be healed of our emotional wounds through prayer, but love most of all. If we learn not to look at the sin of the person, but instead look at the wounded Christ in that person who is hurting us, it makes things a whole lot easier to forgive. There is a saying ‘hurting people hurt.’ I believe that is true. Not everybody can handle it that well and some seem to be a target more than others, of being hurt by the majority of people than others. I feel they have a very special calling once they have learnt to forgive and love their neighbour. There is a song and one of its line is ‘don’t judge the wounded.’ I bet we are all saying yes to that one, in other words don’t judge me I am wounded. But only too often both parties are judging one another and both have been wounded very deeply. So it is a vicious circle. Only God can fix it. And He does through love and accepting our prayers and sometimes fasting is needed.
If we try to remember Christ lives in us and He is a part of everything we do, we would be more careful how to act and treat one another. It is always easy said than done, but as Christians it is what God expects of us. Evil deeds spread and so do good deeds. Little acts of kindness can be the things that touch people’s hearts the most. I think because they are so little and we are all in such a hurry we don’t do them. But they make a big difference in relating with one another. There is another saying ‘it is the little things that make or break a marriage.’ So it shows us how important the little thoughtful gestures can be. They are not so little in truth. And it is something we all can do. Big things maybe not, but the very little things can melt peoples heart with softness and love. And so there is healing for both parties.
Not everybody is going to respond in a kind manner, but with many prayers and persistence, I think you win more people over that way. Because we all want to be appreciated despite of our faults. I am still learning and it is after all a life time lesson, because there is never an end to love. Love grows and grows to great heights if we are all game and willing to learn enough. I am learning so much from one of my friend’s example. She sees only the best in people most of the time and is very thoughtful of showing kindness in small ways to strangers as well as to her friends. There is nothing like learning from somebodies example.
Romans12:9. Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good.
1 Peter 4:8. Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.